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I've done a lot of knitting and a lot of parenting. Jamie has been such a wonderful son and big brother. We are very proud of him. He still constantly kisses her. He gives her his toys all the time, too.

Just yesterday, Jamie gave Renna some of his blocks while she was sitting on the couch. She found one of his foam letters and was gnawing on it where she has teeth tormenting her and refusing to break through the surface. Jamie decided he wanted it, but I wanted her to have it since there are very few things that make her gums feel better. But I didn't want him to feel like he was giving her everything and not allowed to keep anything for himself. So I talked to him and told him why I wanted her to have it and asked him if it was okay if she borrowed it for a little while. He said it was okay. I then told him how proud of him I am and what a wonderful sweet smart loving boy he is and how much I love him. He was very happy. He hid his shy smile and gave me a hug. He really is an incredible child. He is so generous and giving and loving. I don't know where he got it, but I couldn't be prouder of him. Here he is hamming it up for the camera.
Tonight, Mama drew him a bath, and as I went in to get Renna undressed so she and I could join him, we noticed he had spelled out "hot" with his foam letters. Mama had asked him several times if the water was too hot, but he said no. He's been saying his ABC's for almost a month now, and he's been able to count to 10 for about month also. He could count to 5 for a month or so before that. Brilliant. Just brilliant. Here we are reading before bed with his new blanket I made him.

Renna learned to roll over, but doesn't do it much anymore. She really loves to stand and just beams when we stand her up. She babbles a ton and has said Mama and Dada a few time. She doesn't seem to like solid foods much if they're pureed. She's a long girl, too! She's stayed well above the 95th percentile for height, but is only around the 24th percentile for weight. Her teeth are constantly tormenting her, and a canine popped up, but nothing since then. The bottom teeth have been particularly horrible to her and I expect one of them to break through any day now. She likes her high chair and the two toys that are on it. She prefers to nap on me, where her nummies are, and we're still bedsharing. She's started flailing about some, so transitioning to her crib maybe in the near future. Poor Renna just had roseola. I was thinking teething, but with a very persistant 101 degree fever Mama thought roseola. Nantuition was right! The rash is almost gone now. Here she is all healthy again.

Renna's baptism was wonderful. She wore the same gown Jamie was baptized in, and this time Father Doyle was able to officiate. Mary and Chris were her godparents. Chris loved seeing her after the home games this fall, too. He's really taking his role as "The Godfatha" seriously. In choosing Mary as Godmother may have been more fitting than anticipated. She's very tall, and so far Renna seems to be taking after her. She may end up being a tall Nordic goddess like her godmother.

On the knitting front I've been pretty productive. I finished Renna's Diamonds for Rhiannon Blanket but not in time for her baptism. It turned out better than I had hoped and I'm very proud to be able to give her something so beautiful. I also finished my socks and a pair for Mama for Christmas. I've also finished a sweater for me. I made the Wreena sweater from French Girl Knits. I'm halfway through a cardigan for me in Georgia Peach from Three Irish Girls.

I Knew It!

You Are the Warrior

You feel that it's your role to defend and protect society. You'll fight for what's right, and you especially like fighting for the underdog. You love getting things done, especially if it means working with your hands. You also have a great mind for strategy... whether it's military strategy, legal strategy, or chess. You love being challenged, and you love challenging others. You are eager to prove how powerful you are. You are ready for a (literal or figurative) fight at any time. Maybe a little too ready.

What Role Do You Play?

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One Year Ago Today

One year ago today, Jamie was diagnosed with a CDH. And so began my worst nightmare. Now, a year later, you would never know he was sick. He's such a good boy. He's brilliant and challenging. He loves his family and we love him. Here was last year:

And here he is now:

Classic Cardigan is Finally Done! Break out the Champagne!

And here is my latest accomplishment in the finished object:

It's Debbie Bliss's Classic Cardigan from Essential Baby. Jamie picked out the yarn from Erica's, and later when we were at Joann's he picked out two different kinds of buttons and I realized at least one of them would be perfect with the yarn. So after finishing the sweater in month, it took me three more months to sew up the two seams, sew on the buttons and weave in the ends. Which is what I did at our knitting brunch today. I hate HATE HATE seaming! Anyway, it's finally done. I tried it on Jamie and it was huge on him. I thought it would end up a size 3T, but it's more of a 4T. It's basically a sweater jacket. I'll try to get a photo of him wearing it. It's a perfect blue for him.

Next, here are some dish cloths, bath cloths, and trivets I made recently. A couple are missing, but you get the idea. All of them are 100% cotton Lily's Sugar and Cream in various colors and patterns. First is the pastel trivet in Colorwave pattern.


Next is the Open Star dish cloth in a variegated yellow and white.


Now we have a dish cloth square pattern from Lion Brand.


And here is Chinese Waves, which is my personal favorite for dish cloths. I've made several.


And here is Bee Stitch, which is great for bath cloths. I gave this one to Mama since her bath puff died and needed a new one anyway. She loves it, and I must say that while I didn't care for how the pattern feels to make it, it looks great and makes a great fabric. Mama liked the blues of it especially.



And here are some gratuitous photos of my girl. Here is her "I love Mama" smile reserved only for me.


And here is her flirtatious laugh. It's usually followed by a huge grin which some how I always miss photographing. But isn't she just beautiful?

Heirloom Knitting

I've been knitting a ton. Okay, not really. I've knitted 6 dishcloths in 3 weeks. I've worked on my sock occasionally, and I've worked on Renna's blanket occasionally. Then I realized that Renna's baptism is only a month away and I wanted to have her blanket done in time. The color of the blanket totally won't match her gown, but I'm going to have her in a different outfit before and after the gown that will go. So here's what I have so far:


Pretty, huh? I know, the green looks a bit blinding, but it's really very pretty and bold. I think the lime green just lifts the forest green while the forest green tempers the lime. It's a delicate balance of extremes. Isn't that the essence of a woman? Maybe just me... ;)


My girl is growing strong and healthy everyday. She is now 11 lbs 8 oz and 24.75 inches long! She talks a lot and even laughs now. We can pretty much hold a conversation with her. I have no clue what she's saying, but it sounds pretty. And she laughs now! It's not a giggle, it's more of a grunted haha. It's much more of a belly laugh. Charming. That's what she is. Charming.


I'm sad that she's outgrown her sleepers, but she looks so cute in her pant sets that it's okay. Jamie was the same way. We just have long babies! Jamie is so good with her. He loves his little sister. He goes over to her and pets her head or holds her hand. Sometimes he wants her out of the new vibrachair (old one wasn't working well anymore) so he can sit in it. I got the vibrating rocker, and it's made for children newborn to 45 lbs. He's no where near that, so he can share it with her. His speaking abilities are growing quite a bit. He's bolder about saying words now. We've worked with him and he just soaks it up. His new words are HOT and BANANA. He has apple as well, but he still only says it quietly. And he signs "I love you" now! He's a wonderful boy. Here he is saying "Cheese!"

Life Keeps Going and Going and I'm Loving It!

Life has been really good. I feel just fabulous. And it amazes me that I feel so good so soon. After having Jamie, it took 4 months before I really felt good, but here I am after 2 months, and I not only feel good, I feel great! Think Tony the Tiger doing his commercial. I'm feeling good about work and I know I can do what I need to to graduate. My confidence is high and I'm actually being productive. Jamie and Renna are both growing well and constantly showing us what wonderful human beings they are and how lucky we are to have them, even when they're grouchy. Mama gave notice at her job today and will be staying home to help us with the kids, the dogs, the house. She'll finally have time to write without instantly losing her train of thought by all the craziness of trying to have a life while having to go to work at a job that has nothing to do with her actual career. I'm knitting and crocheting dishcloths, wash cloths, divots, place mats, hand towels. And I have a bazillion socks in the works, as well as a bizillion sweaters and one lacy baby blanket. Crafting is great, even if I don't have as much time for it as I'd like. It's good to just have it when I can get to it. Oh, and I'm starting to like my hair. Finally!

A Successful Home VBAC Brings Renna Into Our Arms

Rhiannon (Renna) was born at home this morning, June 9th, at 12:29 am weighing 8lbs 6ozs and measuring 21.5" long. This is the story of her birth.

The seeds of vbac are planted.
The foundations of her birth actually began with her brother's birth. With Jamie, we naively went to the hospital trusting the doctors would give us good advice. After that things went terribly wrong and we were both subjected to unnecessary risks and complications. I had a very long and hard recovery. I began researching birth and vbac almost immediately. A friend was due to deliver her baby 6 months after Jamie's birth, and another friend was training to be a doula for her birth, and I began training to be a doula as well. My education in labor and birth was very liberating, infuriating, shocking, and healing. I learned how badly my labor had been "managed" and how everything they told me to do and asked me to do were exactly wrong. Most eye opening was realizing how selfish and horrible my doctor had been. Realizing she lied to me, making me fear for the life of my son just to get my consent for the c-section, was something that both liberated me from my guilt and caused me new grief at having been so violated. That July, as I attended my friend's labor as one of her 2 doulas, I tried to forget my own labor. As she labored and her labor mirrored mine, I tried to forget. As she was pushed into the same result as I had been, I tried to forget. I wanted to believe that her being in the hospital didn't necessarily mean she had to have a bad experience, especially with the two of us there to help her. Then during her c-section, the doctor changed her mind as to the reason for the operation. Before, she said it was fetal distress. During she decided and put onto permanent record that it was - CPD or cephalopelvic disproportion. CPD, the most recent fad to use as an excuse for c-sections which is a genuine problem, but extraordinarily rare and usually the result of profound trauma to the pelvis or rickets (malnutrition causing fusing of the pelvic bones). I was enraged. I was guilty. I failed to help my friend avoid being cut open simply because the doctors didn't want to wait to let nature take it's course and bring about a healthy baby. Thankfully my friend didn't blame me, and understands, as I do now finally, that our hands were tied. When the doctor says your baby could die, you let them do what they want to ensure the survival of the person who means more to you than your own life. This made me even more resolved to have a vbac successfully and refuse to be manipulated. Michael and I started talking about trying for the next baby, and planned on trying in December so that if it took a few months they would still be around 2 years apart in age. Things changed drastically 2 months later.

The seeds of hope are planted.
In September, Jamie was diagnosed with a congenital diaphragmatic hernia. He had a hole in his diaphragm and his abdominal organs were in his chest cavity compromising his heart and lungs and would die without immediate surgery. He was flown to Riley Children's Hospital in Indianapolis where he received the best care available from experts in his condition. I've blogged in detail about this, so I won't go into it again. But as we lived through this nightmare, we decided not to refrain from comforting each other, and since we were planning on trying for another baby in December, if I got pregnant a few months earlier it wasn't a big deal. And I did. Hence, out of the pits of despair came our next bundle of joy and hope. He's our miracle, she's our hope.

Preparations and deciding on home birth.
After coming home and watching Jamie recover at light speed, I began the search for a doc who would let me try for a vbac. I couldn't find even one in my area who would consider it without a "proven pelvis". Meaning, unless I had given birth vaginally before, they wouldn't let me try. I talked to my doula instructor, and got the name of a doc near her, 1.5 hours away from me, who did them. I started seeing her for my prenatal appointments. At this point, I had decided on a hospital birth just in case I needed an emergency c-section, and because I didn't think we could afford to pay for a home birth out of pocket, since the insurance wouldn't pay a cent. Things with the doc were okay, and she said all the right things. We had our 20 week level 2 ultrasound and learned our baby was a girl and that she had no CDH issues like Jamie had, and we were happy. Then, after entering the 3rd trimester, the doc changed her mind about being non-interventionist, and said some things that were very insulting and totally contrary to what we had discussed before. So after crying all the way home from the last prenatal with her, we discussed home birth again. It was what we both really wanted, and Michael was anry with me for letting money be the deciding factor in our health care choices. So I began to look for a home birth midwife, and I found one, Marlyce. And add to that, my doula instructor, Louise, was willing to still be my doula despite it being such a long drive for her. And so the wait for labor began.

Early Labor.
And on June 6th at 10pm, I started having rhythmic contractions about every 5 minutes. This had happened the previous 3 nights and they had stopped when I went to bed, and expected they would again. But they didn't. At 3am, I couldn't sleep any longer so I got up and started timing them. They were 3 minutes apart lasting 45 seconds. Around 4am, I got Michael up to time them with me, and they were more like 5 minutes apart lasting a minute. So we called Marlyce and Louise. I felt like things weren't going to stop, so Louise decided to come out, but we decided we'd call Marlyce back when things got closer and stronger. I labored all day with the contractions varying from 5 minutes apart to 3 minutes apart randomly throughout the day. We felt like things were definitely going to continue to go forward, but that birth was not imminent. So Louise went home after 5pm, and I had instructions from Marlyce to take a Tylenol PM and sleep as much as I could to conserve my strength. At 3am on Monday June 8th, I awoke after sleeping for about 5 hours, because I couldn't sleep through the contractions anymore. They were again about 3 minutes apart. I had a normal appointment with Marlyce scheduled for 10am, so I just waited to see her. We were supposed to go to our fellowship orientation, but of course I wasn't going, but Michael went in to get something for his research and to let them know we weren't going to be there for our meetings. Mama stayed home from work, too. Just before Marlyce arrived, labor began in ernest.

Active labor and birth of Renna.
10 minutes before Marlyce arrived, my water broke in a trickle. Once Marlyce arrived, we had our appointment as normal, but I felt the contractions were beginning to get a bit more painful. At the end, we discussed whether she should just stay, or come back later, since it was clear labor wasn't going to back off. As I sat on the birthing ball trying to decide, my water started gushing out. So she decided to stay. I got in the tub to clean off and then called Louise to tell her to come out again. This was just around 11am. I labored by bouncing on the birthing ball and walking around the house. We watched a movie (Big Trouble in Little China), and Louise arrived around 1pm. That's pretty much the last time I was aware of the time. The contractions were very painful, and still somewhat erratic. We had lunch, then Louise "suggested" that I walk around the house to try to get things more regular. Then she had me do knee-chest for a while, thinking Renna might need a bit of help making one of the turns through the pelvis. While in knee-chest, I was able to relax some and the contractions slowed. Then I was up again on the ball, and in the shower, and on the toilet. I really hated being on the toilet because it was horribly painful, which of course means it was very productive. Then Marlyce and her assistant got the bedroom ready for the last stages of labor. We did a hanging position where Michael held me under the arms and I hung there. That was the worst pain EVER. Even worse than the toilet. I started feeling like I was in transition, but it lasted a long time. Transition is only supposed to last at most 15 minutes, and I was like that for over an hour. Finally, Louise suggested knee-chest again. And again I was able to relax for about a half hour, resting between contractions, which spaced out to about every 10 minutes or so. I got up and got on the toilet again, and again went into transition. And I started feeling the urge to push, so they let me. I wasn't productive in it, but it gave me something to do and put my energy into rather than just the pain. Up to this point, everyone was taking turns taking care of me and staying with me and coaching me. Louise, Marlyce, Michael, Mama. Jamie was around from time to time, and I did my best to reassure him. He looked a bit nervous, but was calm and let Louise and Marlyce hold him and take care of him, which seemed to help him. But from time to time, I could hear him say "Mama!" and he sounded unsure and afraid. Three times, I lost focus and I seriously thought about just saying I wanted to go the hospital, and that even another c-section would be okay, but I never actually said it out loud. Of course, Michael would never have let me go. I love that man. He knew I didn't really want that, regardless of what thoughts came to my pain-clouded mind. Twice I said I didn't know if I could do this, and my support team rallied around me and gave me the emotional boost I needed, and brought my focus back to what I was doing. The third time the thought crossed my mind, I knew I couldn't do that. I knew I couldn't put Renna (and me) at greater risks just to end my pain sooner. I was in a lot of pain (a LOT of pain), but everything was okay, Renna was fine and the labor was progressing normally. If women for thousands of years could do this, so could I. Once the urge to push started, those thoughts were completely gone. I was almost there and I knew it. And I was doing it. After pushing lightly a bit, and with the urge getting stronger, I was informed that I wasn't actually pushing and got some coaching on it. I was a bit frustrated, to say the least. When we got back on the bed, knee-chest again, I found I was able to actually push sometimes, but it wasn't consistent. You know how all the prenatal classes tell you to "curl around your belly" to push and make the pushing more productive? Total crap. I found if I arched my back a bit I was able to use the exact muscles needed. It was like a straight line down my body and "out", so to speak. As soon as I figured that out, pushing was a snap and very very productive. However, I couldn't push through the entire "contraction" and would have to do clusters of pushes, moaning the whole way, and that worked really well. At this point, now that I figured out how to push, Marlyce checked me to see if I was fully dilated and therefore ready to go. Well, I had a lip of cervix left. Apparently, women who've had a c-section will often have a lip on the front of the cervix because the scar prevents full pulling of the uterus on the cervix to make it dilate. So I had to not push through a total of 4 "clusters", and that was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Once the urge to push, and the knowledge of how to push were there, it was impossible to not push. In order to not push, they led me through puff breathing, and a few times I still did push but it was lighter. Marlyce checked again and pushed the cervix back, and after another 2 clusters she said I could push again. I later learned that it was around llpm at this point, and Jamie was finally asleep on his mattress in the living room, after refusing all night to go to sleep (or have a nap all day). So Mama came in and helped me. Michael was pacing the bedroom, and I saw him a few times and he looked like he wanted to pass out, but he didn't. I switched to laying on my left side for the rest of pushing. With every push, Mama would support my right leg up in the air, I'd grab the belt loop on her jeans and pull, and moan loudly. I swear I was really screaming, but everyone swears it was a low moan. Once Renna started to crown, I had to push more gently. The way I did that was to do what had been ineffective before, curling around my belly. And I stretched. No tearing. And then I could push full on again. And then Marlyce released one shoulder, the left one, and as the right one came out and she was born, I could feel the tearing. All through labor, I was telling everyone that she was punching me right where her head was, which didn't seem right. But I was right. Her right hand was on her left shoulder, and her elbow was straight out and tore me on the way out. It was too late to slow things down at that point since there was nothing stopping her. So I had 2nd degree tears down, and a slight tear up. We think she had her hand (or hands) on her face during most of labor, and that's why she needed help making those turns. Then at the last minute, pulled her hand down onto her shoulder. So, 50.5 hours after prodomal labor began (and didn't stop), 14.5 hours after my water broke, and after 1.5 hours of pushing, my Renna was in my arms.

Me with Renna, Mama, and Marlyce.

Fourth Stage and Just After Birth
She required a lot of rubbing to get her to start breathing, but she finally did. She didn't need any oxygen. Then Michael was laying next to me, and we held our little girl.

Proud Parents with the newborn Renna

She breast fed right away, and really went to town.

Renna and her first meal.

Mama brought Jamie in to see his sister. He was too tired and asleep to really be that aware, but he looked at me and was a little freaked out by me holding her. He did go straight back to sleep however, so he must not have been that freaked out. The placenta came out with one push about a half hour later, and Marlyce checked it out and it was fine and healthy. I guess at one point, Michael had agreed to "catch" and after seeing me crowning said he didn't want to (I did hear him say that at the time and asked about it later), so when it came time for the cord they asked if he wanted to but he let Mama do it (after it stopped pulsing, of course). She was thrilled. Marlyce waited to see if I needed stitches, but the "backward" tear wouldn't stop bleeding so she stitched it, but the "front" tear didn't need any. Then they made me get up and pee, which was lots of fun, let me tell you.

Renna getting measured.

Mama held Renna while Marlyce was taking care of me (after taking Renna's measurements), and Alex the Bichon, laid next to her and kept sniffing Renna and laying his head next to her in a protective posture. He knew right away when I got pregnant with her (and with Jamie) and loved laying his head on my belly, listening. And once she was here, he was thrilled. All throughout labor, he paced like he knew something was going on. He was a happy boy. The other dogs were locked up in the garage to keep them out of the way. Kelsey the Border Collie because we didn't have enough time to get her used to the new people so she wouldn't nip them, and because she'd bark continuously if locked up her usual place in the house. Tigger the Dachshund because she'd bark non stop if in the house, as well. And Murphy the Golden because his huge self would just be in the way. Once Marlyce and Louise left around 3:30am, Mama let the dogs in, but we didn't have Murphy and Kelsey sleep with us as normal since they hadn't been introduced to Renna yet.

Life with Renna

Our First Day

I slept as long as I could, but I didn't really sleep in. I felt great! Renna was a beauty, she fed really well, and she needed to meet her family. The dogs were totally blase, except for Alex who was still thrilled. Murphy did wag his tail, so I think he was happy to have her here, too.

Renna in handknits

I made the appointment with the pediatrician for the next day, and we settled in for the day. Julie had arrived earlier to put up a sign with balloons, and later she and Bridget came over to visit. They were amazed I was doing so well. In fact, they did say that I really seemed myself, while after the c-section with Jamie it seemed to take several months before I was "back" and they had missed me. I was amazed by how good I felt, too. Renna continued to sleep most of the day away, feeding every 3-4 hours. In the days that followed, we developed a routine, and she slept well, and fed even better. She lost 7oz the first day, one the day after, but by 9 days old had gone up to 8lbs 12oz! When Marlyce came to do the Newborn Screen, after cutting Renna's heal and Renna starting to cry piteously, Jamie started crying and grabbed me and kept saying "Mama!" while looking at his sister sadly and at Marlyce like she was a monster. He started loving his sister right away. It took him a while to be reassured that I was still there for him and that our relationship hadn't changed, but he is now calmer and happier. It helped him to see Renna go to the pediatrician's office and he didn't get any shots, and his visit several days later went much better than normal. My sister-in-law Kristin arrived a week later, and she has been a big help. Jamie has come to adore her and loves to play with her. I had to go back to work when Renna was 6 days old, which has been really hard. But now my schedule has settled down, and we've made sure Renna gets breast fed on demand, and I'm not so upset about it. My bottom hurt like the dickens for 2 weeks but feels better now. I did over do it twice and started bleeding really heavily and passing larger than is safe clots, but after resting I was fine. So I'm just taking it easy still, while trying to get back to normal. It seems the main trigger for overdoing it is lifting things that are too heavy, or lifting something heavy-ish too high, so I can't carry Renna in her carrier, or lift the stroller, or put Jamie in his carseat. Otherwise, I'm fine to resume normalcy. And Renna is a great sleeper, so I have to wake her to get her to eat. She also sleeps through any household noise, including Jamie's tantrums from when he's overly tired. Jamie is even learning to sleep more heavily and doesn't necessarily wake up when she cries. We've started getting used to being a larger family now, and it's wonderful!

In retrospect
I'm very glad we decided on the home birth. While it was a long hard labor (even Louise and Marlyce said it was hard, so it's not just my opinion), it was very rewarding and healing and so much better than a repeat c/s. The long labor I had, along with the pattern of stopping and starting, would have made the OB's want to intervene to "keep things progressing" and probably would have pressured me into a c-section in the end. In fact, both Marlyce and Louise said just that. And while Marlyce is definitely biased toward home birth, Louise works in a hospital of which she's very proud, including their vbac stats. If I'd had to fight about it, the stress alone would have made labor longer and harder, and I might have caved on an epidural, and would have caved on another c-section if they'd hinted at her being in distress, which is actually pretty likely because they would have required constant external electronic fetal monitoring, which has a 90% false positive rate especially when the baby's actually in the birth canal. All of this would have made a vbac at a hospital almost impossible, and I don't think I can quantify or describe how important it was to me that I have a vbac. I thank God that everything happened the way it did, when it did. I surrounded myself with a great support team, and they didn't let me down. I didn't let myself down, either. Had Renna shown any distress, we'd have been in the hospital in about 8 minutes, but thankfully she was just as happy in labor as Jamie had been. Constant heart rate, and constantly moving. I am a bit embarassed by how loud I was. I moaned the whole time. In fact, sometimes, I moaned as loudly as I could because it "drowned out" the pain. I tried praying, but I'd forget where I was mid-word. Michael said that's okay because he was praying for me. Sweet man. I couldn't use my normal zen dissociation when I neared transition, let alone in it. Now I know what my "normal" pattern for labor is, so next time I know what to expect. And hopefully I won't have a lip then now that my cervix knows how to dilate fully. Yes, there will be a next time. I do still remember the pain, and I think I always will, but it was worth it to have Renna and I would be willing to do it again for another child.

Offspring Update

Jamie is doing really well. He was sleeping in his new toddler bed for the longest time, and even started using a pillow. He had almost 2 months of teething his molars which caused some serious sleep issues. Nobody ever told me it could cause such problems! I was worried it was something we were doing. But for the last 3 days he's gone for a daily nap and to bed at night pretty much voluntarily and didn't cry at all! It makes life so much easier. He hasn't demanded to play in the middle of the night either, and last night he woke up and put himself back to sleep.

A couple of weeks ago, he decided he didn't want to sleep in his bed anymore, and moved his pillow and blanket to the narrow space between the foot of our bed and the wall/corner of the room. The mattress fits perfectly there, so we moved his mattress, got a new mattress for the bed (convertible crib/toddler bed) to see if he wanted to keep using his bed, and he hasn't looked back. He likes the floor. So we'll use the crib for Renna and when we move we'll get a twin bed for Jamie. He should be ready by then.

Jamie crawls up and down stairs by himself, and will walk up and down them if holding someone's hand. He walks like a pro and thankfully has stopped falling down from being uncoordinated. He also runs, which is highly cool. He can just barely reach doorknobs now, but can't turn them yet.

We're already potty training him. He tells us when he has to pee on a pretty regular basis, but doesn't tell us about the other yet. This is the only way to solve his diaper rash since it's because of his super sensitive skin and not from the poo itself. I'm very impressed with him that he's done so well and really taken to this potty training business.

Renna is growing well and I have only 7 weeks until my due date. We've decided to do a home birth. I found a midwife, and Louise will still be my doula even though now she'll have to drive an hour and a half to get here. I'm looking into getting a pool and laboring in the water, and maybe doing a water birth. All of this came about after a bad visit with the OB. She said some things that were completely counter to what she had been saying before. I know sometimes she gets crabby if she feels like she's not being given the proper amount authority and recognition. I just didn't need to worry about her mood when in labor and didn't want to have to fight with her about not doing unnecessary interventions. A vbac is healthiest and safest for both Renna and me and the safest place to labor and birth is in the home whether it's a vbac or regular vaginal birth. When Michael found out I wanted to go to the hospital only because of insurance and cost reasons, he was not happy with me. He wanted a home birth just like I did, but thought I wanted to be in the hospital just in case there was a need for an emergency c-section. And since the time it would take to get me into the OR is the same whether I'm laboring in the hospital with a surgeon on call or coming in from 5 minutes away is still a minimum of 20 minutes, it doesn't help to be in the hospital. I'm really very comfortable with this decision and I like the midwife. I am so much healthier and more comfortable in this pregnancy than I was at this point with Jamie. I really look forward to being able to give birth without extensive interference from impatient doctors.

Knitting Miscellany and a Ewe-Nique Store Found

I've finished four sweaters since December, two for Renna and two for Jamie. Now I'm working on a pair of socks and a scarf for Janessa for Christmas. Soon I'll be starting Renna's blanket which will be in a lace weight held double. I'll also be starting (over) another pair of socks. I'll also be starting another sweater, this one for Renna, then one for Jamie.

I got the KnitPicks options interchangeables and I love them. I also got the fixed circulars in the smaller sizes. The wires of the KnitPicks needles are the best I've ever used, very soft and pliable (even without boiling!). I also like their yarn. I've made both of Jamie's sweaters and one of Renna's from KnitPicks yarn. It's inexpensive but still excellent quality.

I've also found a new favorite yarn store in Goshen called Ewe-Nique Knits. I heard of it from someone in a knitting group I've started going to that meets once a month. I also met the owner online through Ravelry. So Mama and I went one Saturday, and I got some great yarn. I found two that I made into a sweater for Renna, and one was the lace weight for Renna's blanket. I also got the sock yarn there on another trip. I love this place! We even made the 45 minute drive for a knitting night, which we'll be doing again soon.

Daddy Needs to Be Here Right Now

My husband had me peeing my pants today. But let me start at the beginning. A Red Robbin restaurant opened up last week, so we went to lunch there today. My mother had never been to one, so it was totally new to her. The fries are awesome, btw. My son was playing with his balloon and he knocked it into my drink, which landed square on my lap and I was soaked. I wasn't terribly upset, because, what can you do? I had to sit through lunch in wet pants, but that's okay. It was a little funny. Now, you may be thinking that if I find something like this so funny, perhaps I have some mental problems, or some weird pregnancy hormonal thing going on, and you maybe right. But I digress. We got our food and Mama's fish was rubbery and just not good at all, so she sent it back and got the chicken strips instead. After they took that away, I bit further into my burger and found that part of it was mostly raw in the center. So I sent it back to get cooked some more. By the time Mama's chicken arrived Michael had finished his burger. A few minutes later my burger arrived. The chicken was much better and my burger was much better, although I did find parts of it were still pink in the middle, but at least it wasn't raw. Now, you'd think perhaps I'd be annoyed or at least tense at this point, but no. Not a big deal really. Michael took Jamie out into the car because he was tired and ready for a nap and getting overstimulated and cranky in the restaurant. Mama and I finished eating shortly thereafter. The manager comped our entire bill, which was very generous, and of course we'll be back to give them another chance. It's newly opened afterall, so not all of the kinks are worked out yet. So we leave a tip, and the waitress was thrilled. I remember when I used to wait tables that usually fully comped tables didn't usually leave a tip even if the reason for the comp wasn't my fault at all. Anyway, she was a great waitress, so of course we left her a tip based on what we thought the bill would have been. She earned it. So we go out to the car and head home. Jamie was feeling better but still cranky, so I put on his classical music and he went straight to sleep. On the drive home, Michael started telling us about how Jamie is learning to try to communicate more complex ideas. Michael was in the bathroom, but had the door open so he could still hear Jamie and be accesible if Jamie needed/wanted him, and Jamie came in and had his train controller and pointed to it then pointed out into the living room. This has happened often when the train runs into a wall or obstacle and stops moving. He then wants you to "fix" the train so it moves again. But he has learned to do this himself, so Michael was confused as to why Jamie would come to him about this again, so he told Jamie to bring him the train. Jamie then went back into the living room and returned without the train and made the same gestures as before. Again Michael told him to bring him the train and again Jamie returned without it and repeated the same gestures. Michael then said that he told Jamie he couldn't go get it right now. He said he "had to be in the bathroom right now", and couldn't do what he was doing anywhere else. I found this to be enormously hilarious and laughed until I cried and peed. All I could think of was "Daddy needs to be here right now" and imagining him on the toilet. And since I was driving, I had to try to not laugh, which only seemed to make it worse. Oh, and to finish the Jamie story, he couldn't bring Michael the train because it was stuck partly under the couch and caught on some thread. So Jamie was trying to say he couldn't get his train. Such a smart boy.

It's been a while, but we're back!

It's been quite a while since I posted, and so I admit to being a very bad blogger. So I'll try to sum up the past few months.

December was Jamie's birthday and Christmas. Jamie had so many gifts that we actually had to save some for Christmas because he got too tired to open all of them on his birthday. Probably it would be best to open gifts before dinner instead of after next time. We had a nice dinner at Olive Garden, and Lil B came and gave Jamie a betta fish that we've named Alpha Beta. He loved his chocolate cake, too! Here's his favorite present:


Christmas was so much fun. We spoiled each other rotten, but especially spoiled Jamie. Here's another photo:


He started walking a few steps at a time in December, and just in the last week he's started walking pretty much everywhere without holding on. He loves his freedom! He's trying to walk as quickly as possible now, and he's so proud of himself. He got his first molar in, too, and has 3 others working their way down in fits.



In January, he slowly got used to his new skills and started calling out Mama, Dada, and Nana on a regular basis and now uses them when he wants each of us specifically all the time. He's started playing with the dogs. He tries to get Tigger to chase her, and sometimes she tries. He's learning to pet the dogs gently, and Murphy loves it! Jamie has learned to try to throw or roll a ball for Alex, which of course thrills Alex no end. Murphy is desperate for Jamie to play with him. Jamie had his hearing test in January, but when they tried to do the test, he freaked out and they couldn't do it. We'll have to go back again and try a different type of test and hopefully he'll be more cooperative.

We're expecting a new baby in June. We had a level 2 ultrasound in January to look for a CDH, but everything looks good. It looks like the diaphragm is intact, but of course it could have a hernia on the left, but still not be breached by the abdominal organs yet, so we'll keep our eyes open for symptoms, just in case. And at the ultrasound, we did find that the baby is a girl! Her name is Rhiannon, and we'll call her Renna. Jamie will be a big brother, and I think he'll be thrilled and very loving. So far she's just as active as Jamie was, but I haven't been able to feel her as much because the placenta is anterior. Julie got me a fetal doppler for my birthday, and I've been able to hear her heartbeat whenever I want, and it's wonderful! :) I found a doctor in Crown Point who will do a vbac, and I can have my doula teacher as my doula! It's great! We're taking a Bradley childbirth class, and so Michael is getting the training I got from my doula classes. It's been really wonderful. I did find out from one of the other mothers that her doctor does vbacs, including vbacs after primary sections. I did talk to a doctor at the same practice and he wouldn't, and he'd been the one I heard would do them, so I didn't interview any others. Oh, well. I'm happy with my new OB.

Jamie's crib was recalled last June, and I only found out two weeks ago. I found that the manufacturer is giving vouchers to those who had recalled cribs after sending them certain information and photos of labels. We'll be able to get a new crib with a credit of the highest retail value of the crib. I've picked out a crib that doesn't have drop sides and it converts to a toddler bed and to a full bed. We'll have to order it and it should only take a week or two to arrive. By then Jamie will be ready for a toddler bed. He's been sleeping on the mattress on the floor since we found out, and the first night was really rough, but since then he's been a pro about it. He seems to love the freedom of being able to get up and leave the bedroom after naps and to get off and on the mattress to play with his toys, even in the middle of the night.

I've had a few FO since my last posting, but the most recent is a baby sweater for Renna that is just adorable. It's a little too big so it can't be a take home outfit like I was planning, but she'll get some wear out of it once it fits. I still need to make pants to go with it. I have a blanket waiting to be made called Diamonds for Rhiannon. After reading the name, I knew I had to have it. I've been working on a sweater for Jamie, too and I'm about halfway through. Then I'll make the February Lady sweater for me.